How to Help Heal Grief through Automatic Writing

When your heart hurts with grief, you can ease that pain.

Are you trying to move through grief but finding it difficult?
There is a gentle, soul-nourishing way to soothe your heart and gradually return to a sense of peace, calm, and harmony—through a process called Automatic Writing (also known as Intuitive Writing or Channel Writing).

This practice allows you to connect with your Soul and the Soul of someone you love—whether they’ve passed away or are simply unavailable. It’s a pathway to healing, clarity, and the harmony your heart longs for. 

My First Experience

My journey with Automatic Writing began after both of my parents passed away.
The outcome was incredible—and not only did it help heal my heart, it became a life-changing experience that deepened my connection with my Soul and transformed every aspect of my life.

It can do the same for you.

Be Kind to Yourself

Grief is tender. If you’re in deep pain, it may be too soon to connect. Give yourself permission to wait until you feel ready.

You’ll know when the time is right—just ask within: “Am I ready?”

If you hear or feel a “yes,” then you are.

Automatic Writing in 3 Simple Steps

Step 1 – Prepare with the Invocation

Have a pen and paper ready. Begin by saying the invocation below to create a sacred space and invite the highest guidance.

Step 2 – Choose Someone to Connect With

This may be someone who has passed away, or someone you’re unable to speak with directly.

Step 3 – Ask a Question and Listen

Write your question, then listen for the answer. It may feel like a regular thought—write it down.
Even if it doesn’t make sense at first, keep writing those thoughts down, the flow will come. Give yourself time. Then ask another question. 

Automatic Writing Invocation

“I ask the Source of all Creation to please create for me a crystalline temple of radiant light around me. 

I invite all of my high level guides, angels, all of my masters, and great beings of light to join me. 

Please clear and cleanse all energies that are not of the light, and fill this temple with the highest, brightest and most radiant light, filled with the raised vibrations needed for my healing and my light..

Please watch over this automatic writing session and ensure that anyone who comes through is a positive and loving being.  I am calling upon the highest, brightest and clearest response.

Please boost my ability to clearly hear, see, feel and conceptualise your divine guidance, and help me accurately receive the messages which carry blessings to me and to anyone who may read them.

Thank you for the guidance that you give to me.”

You can also ask questions to your Soul to help you heal

You can use this as a self healing tool, by having great questions for your Soul and listening for the guidance that comes.

Some great ‘Self Healing’ questions:

• What easy ways can I practice that will soothe my heart today?
• What easy ways can I let go of the heavy weight I’m carrying today?
• In what ways can I easily be kind to myself and allow the harmony I crave?
• What message do you have for me today?

My Experience

I first discovered this process after both my parents had passed away. Though I had moved beyond the initial stages of grief, I still carried doubts about how I had handled my role as a daughter during a complex and challenging time in our family.

My heart was heavy with emotion. So I decided to write to Mum and Dad—asking for guidance, forgiveness, and whatever I needed to heal.

The moment my pen touched the paper, I felt my mother’s presence. My father stood back—always the gentleman. Tears flowed freely. The page became soaked.

My mum was with me at last—this magnificent, beautiful, radiant Being.

I poured out my heart, and she responded with words that helped me heal.

I asked if she was considering returning to a human experience. Her reply: “Well, the break is good!” So I guess that means no.

A Miraculous Moment

In the middle of our conversation, my phone rang. It was my dear friend, in tears—her final IVF attempt had failed. I gave her all the love I could, then returned to my writing.

I told Mum what had happened. She reassured me: “There is a baby coming, and it is a boy.”

At the time, it seemed impossible.

But today, my friend has a beautiful 5-year-old son—born through surrogacy.
Mum was right. Our little man found a way to come through.

My Conversation with Dad

Then I asked, “Are you there, Dad?” He replied, “I’ve been waiting for your mother.”
A very typical response from my Dad.

At the time, Shane and I were travelling through the Kimberley, living in a caravan. I asked Dad—an adventurer himself—if he was joining us. He said he was with me all the way, hearing my calls.

He also mentioned visiting other planets. I told him he was a show-off. 😊 

George’s Experience

George, in his late 60s, came to me for energy healing. He had back pain—but intuitively, I sensed he needed kindness and love.

As he lay face down, I cleared his energy centres and focused behind his heart. The emotional block released, and he began to cry.

Afterward, he shared that he had lost his wife two years earlier and was struggling with grief.
He felt unable to enjoy life, even after making positive changes. He said he felt dead inside.

I introduced him to Automatic Writing and gave him the invocation. I told him that if he spoke with his wife, she would want him to be happy.

Two weeks later, George returned—grinning. He had spoken to his wife and received her blessing to enjoy life. He said, “Guess what? I’ve just been on a date!”

Eight months later, George had travelled to Europe and met someone special. He told me he would never have done that without the healing session—but truly, it was his openness to the process that changed everything.

A final Note

As I revisit this article, I remember that George passed away peacefully, surrounded by loved ones—and no doubt, greeted by his beloved wife as he returned to his Spiritual Home.

He embraced life again after discovering he could still connect with her in Spirit. Being able to express himself, ask questions, and receive her answers gave him the freedom to live fully—and the permission to welcome love again.

Rest in peace, beautiful George. I loved your gorgeous Spirit and cherished becoming your friend.

Listen to Your Body Wisdom

If you notice moments of anger, fear, or judgment, you might gently become curious about the thoughts behind them.

Sometimes, these thoughts can reveal patterns that are quietly asking for love and attention.

Every inspirational leader began by listening to their intuition, and generally activated it at a time of need due to struggle or deep pain. You can activate this within you—it’s easy and life-changing.

The Open to Your Heart Power Masterclass is there as a gentle space to support you in transforming those thoughts and move forward with what you love.

What others sometimes experience within this space 

A gentle place to begin

Heart hug,
Robyn
Intuitive writer, teacher and channeler