How to surrender to anxiety in order to be brave.

Being perfect is not what we need from you!

Is anxiety a feeling which is stopping you from enjoying life? Is serving others in a public way in your path but feel to afraid to begin?

It takes courage to surrender to anxiety, it takes courage and determination to follow through with your passions in life, but hey, who better than you – beautiful soul – to show up in your loving and personal way.

Lets do a healing on your inner critic and instead of being frightened, or blocked by anxiety, let’s take a good look at it with understanding and love. This way you can soften the struggle you have within and can focus your attention and energy on the more important task at hand like asking your higher self:

• “What steps do I take to support by intention of feeling ease in my heart, so I create more joy for myself?”
• “How can I support my intention of feeling ease in my heart so I can achieve showing up for others?” 
• “What is my next most important step?”

Showing up to inspire others takes courage!

It’s your personality, it’s your humanness, it’s who you are we need. Not the perfect being who never makes mistakes! It’s the brave, courageous ones like you who make a difference by being bold, willing to make mistakes, willing to change, willing to grow and willing to share… is who we need sharing what lights you up… with others and/or standing out the front in a public way. 

We all want to do the very best job we can when we show up to help others but we also need to remember it’s okay to be human too! 

Before bravery there is always anxiety, so don’t let anxiety stop you, or hinder the pleasure of serving others – because we need you, and your time is now.

AFFIRM IF THIS FEELS RIGHT TO YOU:

“I am guided by what lights me up and what I love to do.”

Ease the inner critic with a ‘net of support’

The support net comprises of compassion and understanding of yourself, surrendering to your humanness and being willing to change and grow. It’s your personality we need, not your perfection. You are human and that’s the part we love, foibles and all!

Let’s look at your ‘net of support’:- 

1.  Surrender to your humanity

If you find yourself feeling weighed down by the responsibility of perfection, give yourself permission to surrender to your humanity.

Just say the words “I surrender!” and feel your shoulders drop a little.

You may be tired, you may have a lot on your plate, other responsibilities taking up space – because that’s life – and it’s okay! 

“I surrender.” Listen to your body, and recognise when you need to give yourself time to heal and rest before you put yourself out there.

AFFIRM IF THIS FEELS RIGHT TO YOU:

“I surrender and allow ease in my heart.”

2.  Give yourself time to heal and rest

Treating yourself as the beautiful being you are. Your soul needs your body to do the work… otherwise you wouldn’t be here… so nurture it and take care of it. Be gentle on yourself, and recognise when you need REST time and HEALING time.

Rearrange your diary to make sure self care is a priority. The affirmation below helps me.

AFFIRM IF THIS FEELS RIGHT TO YOU:

“I treat myself with love and kindness. I allow time to rest and heal.”

3.  People are listening to your intention and your energy – that’s what’s important

Have your intention in place right from the start. Ask yourself “What is my intention with this presentation/video/public talk? Then … “Does this information fulfil my intention?”

AFFIRM IF THIS FEELS RIGHT TO YOU:

“I include love in everything I do.”

4.  You can educate yourself to improve for the next time

Allow yourself to be open to more education, and be willing to change – because you are growing, expanding and helping others do the same.

I find it eases my heart knowing that I can improve by educating myself and watching learning from others whom I admire.

AFFIRM IF THIS FEELS RIGHT TO YOU:

“I give myself permission to educate myself further to improve for the next time.”

5.  Teach what lights you up – as soon as you learn something new

You are qualified, because you just learnt it.

AFFIRM IF THIS FEELS RIGHT TO YOU:

“I allow myself to teach what lights me up to others.”

6.  Surrender to being the best that you can be

At the very beginning of the day of putting yourself out there for others, surrendering to being the best you can be establishes your intention. We don’t mean perfect, we mean the best it can be.

AFFIRM IF THIS FEELS RIGHT TO YOU:

“I surrender to this presentation being the best that it can be.”

“I surrender to the video being the best that it can be.”

“I surrender to my talk being the best that it can be.”

My experience

Although I’m very comfortable in front of an audience holding retreats and workshops, being on live camera is the one which ignites my anxiety. When I first wrote this article (I’m presently editing it and giving it a little overhaul), I attended online workshops by the wonderful Lee Harris who inspired me to ‘show up’ through his words and explained in a way I could understand just how to surrender to being the best that I can be.

This has made all the difference in letting go of the perfection and fear of making mistakes and falling all over myself. You will see the outcome of being brave and putting myself out there for the first time on live camera below. 

Being in the audience is very different to being on stage.

If giving a talk or being on camera is your path, then it’s important to know that as a presenter, you often feel after your talk “I should have added this, or I forgot that!” or “It would have been better if I remembered to do this – or that!” For me, I started to feel ill from the feeling of guilt!

Allow yourself to surrender.

The audience doesn’t know – nor do they care – what ‘the This or the That’ is you missed – they are taking on board the part of your message which is perfect for them at that time, and would feel ease by your intention of love. 

The video above is me fumbling through. I’m hoping you are inspired by me having given it a go and can see how it’s okay for me ‘not to be perfect, just to be brave and do it anyway!’

Activate your Intuition 

Every inspirational leader began their journey by activating their intuition and listening to their very own high intuitive selves.

You can activate your intuition too – it’s easy and life changing. You can begin your journey for free in the online experience in the course called ‘Activate your Intuition’.

Within, there is an easy meditation which guides you to let go of those pesky thoughts, followed by an intuitive writing exercise (also known as automatic writing or channel writing).

You will blend with your inner child… who will inspire fun and nurturing for you;
Ignite your voice… to inspire you to express yourself in the highest way;
Ignite your body… to inspire the self care your body needs;
Ignite your heart…to inspire the self love your soul needs;
Ignite your peace… to inspire the ease in your life to become the best you can be;
Ignite your creativity… to inspire allowing what lights you up in your life; and
Ignite your curiosity… to discover more of what lights you up! 

When you have this deep connection with your higher intuitive self and the self awareness…

Watch the magic unfold.

It is my intention through all aspects of my work to make an empowering difference in people’s lives. I hope to have helped you too.

I send you all my love, 

Robyn
Transformation Teacher|Quantum Hypnotherapist